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My Father loves me so much that I was so blind to see

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Recently, everytime I open the P3 channel on the Norwegian radio, I get this song by Seeb and Greg Holden Boys in the Street. The chorus part "stop kissing boys in street". Btw, this song is about LGBT and eventhough Grey Holden isnt gay, neither me but It reminds me the times where my dad did told me : stop kissing boys in the street. I was so curious who Seeb is because the Original song for Grey Holden Boys in the street as slow and sounds super sad. And based on seeing the way Seeb talked on Youtube, i kind of guess he is from Norway because of his accent. I was right !
 Seeb (sometimes stylized as SeeB) are a Norwegian musical production trio made up of Simen Matre Eriksrud, Espen Berg and Niklas Strandbråten. Basically most of the songs I heard on the radio these days were tuned by them and they sound super nice ! 

I never talked or post much on social media about my family. I like to keep them personal.
My father, Daddy, is unlike other dad's you ever seen in the world.
He has No HOBBY, Not much respectable in the house, not fierce, not alchoholic( in fact allergic to alchohol), don't smoke,  no good/best friends nor has the best IQ and EQ out there. 

There are so much flaws about him ever since I realized it since I was 14years old.
Back then in our teenage rebelious days, we weren't the most happy or peaceful family in the neighbourhood. There will be lots of shoutings and cryings and that I am not proud of. 
Dad is not a secret keeper, he saw me once kissing with my ex after school and told the whole family about it and mum went super furious. Well, I guess he loves to punish me with embarrasment.

After 6 years, I left home for studies and after graduating and then met Christian,  the years of cracked relationship with my dad seemed to fixed back like a jigsaw puzzle.
 It was the travelling experience, the people i meet out there, the living social life in Norway that changed my personal opinion of my dad. I learnt and see more broken families out there,
adopted friends, suggorated families, having friends that had husband cheating on them
 or those that even buy wives from vietnam and some that would be together
just to get visa or greencard of that certain country. 

I then realized, the relationship I have with my family, simplicity or the quarrels and openess we had we were actually not common in some other families. Daddy was not the typical dad with a great career at start. He changed jobs very often , had a period of redundancy and even borrowed money from my piggy bank to buy a gift for mum.  When I was young, I used to compare my dad with others and see how succesful my friends dads were. But then, he was always at home, always bringing back food for us and even at times, he would learn to cook for us.
I still remembered tasting his first dish. It was horrible and he was upset. Yet, he did not gave up and kept learning to cook until we enjoyed his dish.

We werent the most encouraging kids and dad sure had a hard time facing our honesty.
However, regardless how many times we were mean to him, he wouldnt say much or scold us badly.
We became mean teenagers with no respect because it seemed easy to bully him.
Now, when I look back. I felt very bad. The words I said to him it felt so true that the tongue is sharper than the sword.

Our daddy is an ever forgiving and forgetful dad, he never take grudge and still love us and coming back daily with food on the table and time to do the housework and be at home to watch over us while mum was busy working a lot.
We werent greatful at that time. But after seeing and knowing friends whom had parents that were not always there for them, that will never scold them, that will never have time to watch over them or had never time to care for them.

Eventhough we quarreled a lot with my dad, but those quarrel moments when I look back
was because he care for us, he wants to protect us and make sure we dont go the wrong path.
We can never ever figure out what Birthday present to give our Dad because he has no hobby and doesnt care about fashion nor electronic items or  tobacco, alchohol. The only thing mum says to get for him all the time , the best gift that wont fail is Socks and underwear.

But without fail, every year we would go just mainly to the restaurant dad picks for a family reunion dinner and thats actually the greatest present for him, to sit in a whole family, eat together and reunite with the typical chinese food he likes.
What an easy birthday present isnt it !!

It took years that finally, my dad started up his own company and started becoming more busy and succesful. Eventhough he gets so busy with work and sometimes travel abroad, he will still make sure to be not away so long to be back Home. He also made a section for his office room so that he can work at home.
Untill then I realized, my dads Hobby is Home and family.

My friends out there had broken families and parents that are not always with them.
Their parents prioritize friends, church, social groups, work and hobbies or activities that they cant involve their kids. That is also what I realized how my mum always trust my dad so much , and us as well. We barely see him away to drink with friends or going out socializing. Even with his clients, its only work and no after work socializing.  He would always be there for mum and vice versa.
When mum is angry, dad would always hug her and never leave her by her sight.
Even at such an old age, I still see them holding hands like kids when we go out and even hugging each other.


My Father loves me so much that I was so blind to see

When it comes to the time I always need to go out to meet friends in the city or come home from overseas, Dad would no matter how far drive 2 hours just to pick me up with mum. He loves being our driver so much that even after just having my driving licence, he would insist of driving me 1 hour to the city because he worry that me being a new driver cant drive so far yet.

When my handphone got stolen, he gave me his phone.

He would keep his old car for a year and didnt sell it just to have me finish my driving licence so I can use his car and no need to buy a new car.

Eventhough he knows at home has food that I can cook, he will always
 buy back lunch for me so that I would not need to cook.

When I started up my business, he helped me promote.

He doesnt bring us travel abroad but  instead saved money to pay for our education and
bought extra  3 houses for all us siblings to stay and inherit.

Everyday, he would pray for our whole family, same goes to my mum. ( That shows how much they care for us and Thank God that our family has been
all good health and strength all these while !! )
( too bad their prayers arent always blessed our kids with lotsa money and to become a millionaire,
its always good health and strength and I believe thats the best blessings in life we cant buy )

Most of all, Dad and Mum would always welcome me and my fiance home
and insist us to stay with them forever because they feel lonely .

Indeed, the times we stayed together, we had so much fun and laughter ,
the house was never quiet and so lively.
( That is the beauty of our asian culture that we always love to stay together as a family)
which i find it different from the western culture.

I never saw that part of dad when I was young, but now I understand why our family stays so
strong together and eventhough we dont communicate much , but we have this tele feeling about each other. We always know each others routine, attitude, habit and are super open to each other to the extend that our would have a fart competition in the living room and still have a great laugh about it.

Dad is indeed not like other dad, he might not be smart or rich but
he is my super dad that gives the best thing of all Dad could ever give and money can never buy ,
FAMILY, LOYALTY AND LOVE
Thank You World, for showing me how lucky I am to have such an awesome Dad !

I love you Daddy and wish you always stay strong and healthy always.
Happy Birthday !


A Special-effect Makeup artist , speaks 7 languages and loves to share her lifestyle, beauty and travelling experience here. She also shares her secret to learning languages on her Youtube channel.

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